A very common example would be on-again, off-again relationships with that person. When you find yourself living out the same looping patterns.When you have a desire or urge to contact him/her even though you previously told yourself you didn’t want to.When you often bring up the person in your conversations, even when there is no relation.When you have a desire to spite him/her, as a way of making him/her regret for whatever happened.When you keep trying to improve yourself because you feel you were not good enough (for him/her).When thought/sight of him/her trigger certain emotional reactions, such as aversion, anxiety, frustration, resignation.When you assign blame for the way things turned out, whether it’s to him/her, yourself or the circumstance.You wonder what could have been or why didn’t it turn out a certain way. When you still have questions and resignations about the past.When he/she comes to mind the first instant when you are down and out.
This was the case for me for the past few years. Often, we think we have moved on but we haven’t. All these require an ability to think consciously and to maintain a level of objectivity, which is hard because such matters are usually linked to deep sorrows and injured pride. Ultimately, there was past baggage to clear and subconscious, erroneous beliefs to untangle before I could really move on. I didn’t realize this until I came to the realizations which helped me let go. No matter how I tried to push away the past, it hung there like a shroud, affecting the way I thought about myself, my decisions, and my actions.
While these do help in some way, I realized that there is more than meets the eye. I mean, you want to move on? Just forget about the past! Get over it. If it wasn’t for my experience with G, I’d think moving on is just a matter of putting the past behind us. I’ll be honest with you: Moving on isn’t easy. Meanwhile, please enjoy the last part of this series. For myself, reading your responses and experiences have given me the invaluable opportunity to learn about you.
#DOES MY FIRST LOVE STILL THINK OF ME SERIES#
This series has generated the most discussion to date and I’m glad my experience has helped you gain insights. Note from Celes: As this series concludes, I’d like to thank all of you guys for your feedback. Part 5: 10 Steps To Move On From a Relationship.Part 4: Top 12 Signs It’s Time To Move On From A Relationship.Part 3: How I Moved On From a Heartbreak – Part 3: Forgiveness, Closure and Moving On.Part 2: How I Moved On From a Heartbreak – Part 2: Heartbreak and Sadness.Part 1: How I Moved On From a Heartbreak – Part 1: My Journey With Love.
#DOES MY FIRST LOVE STILL THINK OF ME HOW TO#
This is the last part of my 5-part series on how to move on from a relationship.